I’m tempted to send a holiday greeting card (which I designed) to my ex-girlfriend but…?
June 9, 2010 by
Filed under greeting card designs
1. she might be annoyed by me doing that
2. even with good intentions, it might worsen our already “hostile” cold-war-like relationship
3. I might end up being misunderstood even more
4. it would be even more awkward if we meet again by chance at work
5. maybe it’s healthier for me to just let it go, move on, and also give her the chance to forget me completely
6. keeping silence would cause less harm than trying to actively reach out…
etc. etc.
So, what’s the best thing to do? Should I send it or do nothing?
Anyway, I would like to get female perspectives on my question. If you are single, from a Christian family, in your mid-20s or older and pursuing a career after a college degree in the humanities, you are probably the ideal candidate to answer this question.
I never quite figured out the actual cause of why we broke up and it’s been bothering me for the past 3+ yrs…plus I have a natural tendency to blame myself and feel guilt for what I consider to be a failure, so that adds to my mind’s disturbance…
Part of me thinks it’s better to try to forget the past and stop speculating…but it’s hard.
i exactly knw y u ppl broke up….. Coz u think too much of crap. just for instance, i can see 6 reasons above for deciding on a card…. be more confident… girls dont like loosers….
I think reason number 5 makes the most sense.
At this time of year we miss those we once had a close relationship with, we start to feel a little nostalgic and have a whole bunch of “what ifs” running through our minds. You split up for a reason, even though you can’t remember why, but acknowledge that you have a cold hostile relationship. From this current state it is highly unlikely that you would be able to reconcile your differences and get back together.
It is hard to move on, but you need to try. It’s been three years now so I think it’s time to give yourself a break and start having fun again. Stop blaming yourself and learn to love yourself. Get out there, socialize a bit. Even if you don’t meet Ms Right, at least you’ll enjoying yourself and maintaining good friendships.