how to mention to our wedding guests where we are registered?
May 14, 2010 by
Filed under wedding card design
I am trying to design my wedding invitation and RSVP cards and am having a little trouble deciding where to mention that we are registered at Target. We are getting married out of state (going to get married on california where all our family is) so i doubt we will get a wedding shower. to me it looks bad to say that we are registered at target on the invitation…. would it be appropriate to put it on the RSVP card? or maybe make a separate little card that says it and put it all in the same envelope?
I just got an invitation and they had cards from that store in the invitation so talk with customer service they may have some.
I’m not married yet, going to be going through this in the next year, but what I’ve seen is that there is a separate card that says where you are registered, but the only thing is, it was in a bridal shower invite, so I’m not exactly sure of the proper thing to do if no shower
In New York it is customary to give cash for the wedding and a gift for the shower, but that isn’t the case everywhere. For shower invitations and some wedding invites there has been a separate card that tells where, the website, and how to find it online.
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Never put it anywhere on your invitation. That gives your guests the impression that you are more interesting in getting presents than having them attend your wedding.
I would have your parents spread the news via word of mouth as they receive the RSVP cards. Guests usually will ask where you are registered but do not force your registry onto them.
If you have a wedding website you could put your registry information on there!
If you are having a shower then your registry information can be put with that invitation since the shower is not being thrown by you.
Hope that helped.
It’s an etiquette no no to put the registry information in your invitation in any way….even on a separate card. The best place for this is in the bridal shower invite or on your wedding website. A lot of times it is a word of mouth thing too. Good luck!
Whatever you decide… aim to increase your returns! So put it on the invitations.
That way people who can’t / aren’t going to be at the ceremony can absolve that guilt in buying you something.
Plus from the point of view of the person getting invited and can’t make it, I would want that chance to make it up by at least getting you something you really want.
*edit* then again I never understood the etiquette, or the rules of wedding ceremonies.
It is not at all appropriate to mention the registry anywhere in your wedding invitations. Period. Not on the invite itself, not on an insert card, not on an RSVP card, nowhere. VERY poor etiquette.
If people want to know where you are registered, they will ask you, in which case you can quickly tell them “(We have a registry at Target, but we’re most excited about getting to have you at our wedding!”). If someone decides to throw you a bridal shower, they as hostess will inform your guests. Otherwise, you keep your mouth shut about it, and graciously accept whatever you may (or may not) be gifted with.
If no body is doing showers for you, then mention it at the bottom of the invitation. Your maid of honour can also let anybody who is giving a shower know where you are registered and since she is supposed to give a shower, she can also tell all of the people she is inviting about where you are registered.
check with target to see if they have cards that you can include in your invitations. bed bath and beyond gave them to us.
Etiquette demands that the registry information not be included anywhere in the invitation, lest it look like you only want a gift.
Having received lots of invitations that made me feel that way (by, for example, including that info on the invitation itself), I would say not ot include the registry info in the invitations at all.
You should let people know by telling your friends and family, should they ask, and letting it happen by word of mouth. Alternatively, if you have a myspace/facebook/wedsite/whatever, put it there and direct people to it.
The trick is to not come off as pushy; no one wants to feel like a vehicle for a gift.
You can include a separate card that simply says ” The happy couple are registered at ______________________________.” You include that with your invites.
I’ve been to a TON of weddings and am currently serving as MOH in my 7th! Almost all of the invitations have a separate card that lists registry information and to be quite honest…I’ve never been offended by this fact. I think that we must think about things in a rational manner and push off pretentious ways of thinking and behaving that exist simply to BE and perpetuate pretentiousness.
Ultimately, I appreciate that I don’t have to sneak around asking where the bride and groom are registered, that I don’t have to log on to their website to find the information and that all of the info comes to me in an envelope that I can place on my calendar where it is easily accessible. It is for convenience’s sake that we insert a card with the envelope, not to demand a gift or assert it’s importance over the wedding itself…if that were the case we would make the registry info on a big frilly card and simply include a small note with venue location and time!
Unfortunately, although it would be easier, nearly all wedding etiquette out there dictates that there is to be nothing about registries either in the wedding invitation envelope or on the invitation itself. I think that rules out putting it on the RSVP card. The thought is, that your guests are guests and should only be instructed about where you are registered if they ask because they intend on buying a gift. It should not be assumed.
What you can do instead is set up a simple free wedding website. I did one at weddingchannel.com It allows you to put up stories about how you met, your engagement, put up pics of your wedding party and then add a page showing where you are registered and any travel information for your wedding. I think you should take an hour and do that. Then you can email the link to friend, family and your wedding party. Hopefully, “word of mouth” will get around your website and the included registry information.
If you don’t want to do that – I think you’ll have to rely solely on family and attendants spreading the word about where you are registered.